Date Advice and First Date Jitters
The first date is always the most important one because it is where you get to know one another and if you want to continue going on dates with each other and begin a serious relationship. That alone makes you nervous, but don't worry your date probably is too. (Image by HAMED MASOUMI via Flickr)
Here's some advice for a first date so you won't be nervous:
1. You get to judge, too. It's very easy to waste a whole lot of time worrying about whether the person you're going on a date with will like you. But your precious hours are probably better spent thinking about whether you like your date. As Tom Hanks' character tells his fictional son in "Sleepless In Seattle," "This is what single people do. They try other people on and see how they fit." Spend your first date evaluating whether the person sitting across from you seems like a well-tailored suit or more like an ill-fitting item that's better left on the rack.
2. It's only the first date, so don't think that you have to pull out all the stops and hit every luxurious place in town. Choose one calming place where you can let loose, but not too loose! Just be you. You want to be in a place where you can focus on one another and get to know that person. Have your date find a nice place if it is too hard for you.
3. Stop thinking so hard on a date spot and whether or not your date will like it. It has been said that people are usually up for anything and will give it a try even if they've never done it before. That should make choosing what to do and where to go on your date much easier.
4. You don't have much to lose. You don't know the person well yet, so you probably aren't all that invested in them romantically. No matter how badly it goes, you'll get over it fairly quickly. That's the true beauty of a first date.
5. You can keep it short. If you plan something casual, it'll be over in approximately the same amount of time it takes you to watch two episodes of "Girls."
6. Dates do go bad, so be aware of that. When I say bad I mean sometimes you end up with that creepy date or something of the sort where you leave with a story to tell others. Not only do you leave with a story you also leave with a lesson for future dates.
7. It's nearly impossible to run out of things to talk about. The first date covers all of your basics, which means that there are a lot of things to discuss: jobs, families, hometowns, hobbies, living situations the list goes on.
Additional reading info at 8 Reasons Not To Stress Out About The First Date - Huffington Post
You not have all the date advice you need to have a great time, so relax and let nature take its course.
The first date is always the most important one because it is where you get to know one another and if you want to continue going on dates with each other and begin a serious relationship. That alone makes you nervous, but don't worry your date probably is too. (Image by HAMED MASOUMI via Flickr)
Here's some advice for a first date so you won't be nervous:
1. You get to judge, too. It's very easy to waste a whole lot of time worrying about whether the person you're going on a date with will like you. But your precious hours are probably better spent thinking about whether you like your date. As Tom Hanks' character tells his fictional son in "Sleepless In Seattle," "This is what single people do. They try other people on and see how they fit." Spend your first date evaluating whether the person sitting across from you seems like a well-tailored suit or more like an ill-fitting item that's better left on the rack.
2. It's only the first date, so don't think that you have to pull out all the stops and hit every luxurious place in town. Choose one calming place where you can let loose, but not too loose! Just be you. You want to be in a place where you can focus on one another and get to know that person. Have your date find a nice place if it is too hard for you.
3. Stop thinking so hard on a date spot and whether or not your date will like it. It has been said that people are usually up for anything and will give it a try even if they've never done it before. That should make choosing what to do and where to go on your date much easier.
4. You don't have much to lose. You don't know the person well yet, so you probably aren't all that invested in them romantically. No matter how badly it goes, you'll get over it fairly quickly. That's the true beauty of a first date.
5. You can keep it short. If you plan something casual, it'll be over in approximately the same amount of time it takes you to watch two episodes of "Girls."
6. Dates do go bad, so be aware of that. When I say bad I mean sometimes you end up with that creepy date or something of the sort where you leave with a story to tell others. Not only do you leave with a story you also leave with a lesson for future dates.
7. It's nearly impossible to run out of things to talk about. The first date covers all of your basics, which means that there are a lot of things to discuss: jobs, families, hometowns, hobbies, living situations the list goes on.
Additional reading info at 8 Reasons Not To Stress Out About The First Date - Huffington Post
You not have all the date advice you need to have a great time, so relax and let nature take its course.
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