So I'm sure you've been in a bar or club, and seen a really hot girl that you wanted to approach.
Wouldn't it be great if you could have just gone up to her confidently, and said the right thing that would have her fascinated and excited by you, instantly?
However, instead of approaching her, you did - precisely nothing.
Instead of just speaking your mind, you went into your own head and tried to imagine what you should say to her. Trying to imagine what the 'right' words would be.
If I say this, how might she respond?
How will she respond? What do I then say?
And on and on.
Unfortunately by now, if you do go and speak to her, there's a good chance it will come off as weird or creepy. Why is this?
Because rather than being natural, you are stuck in your head. You are trying to force a reaction out of her.
When this happens, the woman often gets a feeling that something is off. They can't quite tell why, but it's just a feeling of 'there's something not quite right here'.
You may have seen the guy who seems to be acting like he is super confident on the outside, but you just feel like something isn't right. His body language betrays his lack of confidence.
When you're around this, you just feel a bit weirded out. And girls are even more in tune to sense this stuff than us guys are!
So it makes a lot more sense to be honest about how you're feeling. It's also something pretty much no other guy does when he meets a girl!
So if you don't feel 100% confident - it's ok to admit that. As long as you're not doing it in a whiny, self pitying way - you take ownership of the fact you don't feel confident right now - it's ok. Girls actually like a bit of vulnerability. Vulnerability and weakness are not the same thing.
What that means is that he approaches her and tells her exactly what he's feeling - so if he's nervous and feels awkward, he can tell her that despite the fact he feels nervous and awkward about approaching her, he finds her so attractive that he had to do it anyway.
This shows real strength. It shows a man who is not hiding anything or trying to be something he is not.
This is so different from the normal guys who approach her - either those super loud fratboy in the club types, or shy 'nice' guys who bore her silly.
So try it out!
Wouldn't it be great if you could have just gone up to her confidently, and said the right thing that would have her fascinated and excited by you, instantly?
However, instead of approaching her, you did - precisely nothing.
Instead of just speaking your mind, you went into your own head and tried to imagine what you should say to her. Trying to imagine what the 'right' words would be.
If I say this, how might she respond?
How will she respond? What do I then say?
And on and on.
Unfortunately by now, if you do go and speak to her, there's a good chance it will come off as weird or creepy. Why is this?
Because rather than being natural, you are stuck in your head. You are trying to force a reaction out of her.
When this happens, the woman often gets a feeling that something is off. They can't quite tell why, but it's just a feeling of 'there's something not quite right here'.
You may have seen the guy who seems to be acting like he is super confident on the outside, but you just feel like something isn't right. His body language betrays his lack of confidence.
When you're around this, you just feel a bit weirded out. And girls are even more in tune to sense this stuff than us guys are!
So it makes a lot more sense to be honest about how you're feeling. It's also something pretty much no other guy does when he meets a girl!
So if you don't feel 100% confident - it's ok to admit that. As long as you're not doing it in a whiny, self pitying way - you take ownership of the fact you don't feel confident right now - it's ok. Girls actually like a bit of vulnerability. Vulnerability and weakness are not the same thing.
What that means is that he approaches her and tells her exactly what he's feeling - so if he's nervous and feels awkward, he can tell her that despite the fact he feels nervous and awkward about approaching her, he finds her so attractive that he had to do it anyway.
This shows real strength. It shows a man who is not hiding anything or trying to be something he is not.
This is so different from the normal guys who approach her - either those super loud fratboy in the club types, or shy 'nice' guys who bore her silly.
So try it out!
About the Author:
Chadd Pfannenstein is a hard fought master of attraction who has spent the previous 10 years tirelessly trying out every attraction system that there is. He is now here to show you how to get laid simply by learning how to approach women in bars and clubs.
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