One of the most common questions guys ask is, "I want to know how to get a girls number?"Well, we all know there's a simple answer: You ASK for it.But what most guys are REALLY asking is: "How do I get a girls number without being afraid of rejection - or being turned down?"There are 3 secret steps for to how to get a girls number. If you follow these, you'll have NO problem in getting her number.Oh, and a little side benefit here is that you'll also avoid her Flaking out on you later on. Ever call up a number a woman gave you and get "The number you have reached...." No more of that.
But it's not always easy to get a woman's phone number. So how do you do it?It's not as risky as asking for her address, but most women are still pretty protective of their phone numbers! Getting her interested in you is important and so is getting her to trust you're not a stalker/serial killer. But there are other ways to step-up your chances of getting her number which I will show you below.Don't just be another guy hitting on her.Don't say or do the expected. A woman is used to being approached by guys, especially if she's attractive. You don't want to be "just another guy". Avoid pick up lines and boring questions like what she does for a living.
Make great eye contact.It's an easy thing to do but some guys go wrong here. You may just be nervous but if you don't look a girl in the eyes you will seem untrustworthy. On the other hand I don't suggest an unwavering stare either, that can be creepy and unnerving A good tip is to alternate unselfconsciously between eye contact and watching her lips as she speaks. If you're interested in what she has to say this shouldn't be that unnatural.
And it offers up something that sounds attractive to a woman - "re-connecting." Women are motivated to focus on relationships and connections with people more than anything else, so the thought of re-connecting is especially powerful for her.How to get a girls number - Step 3) Never ASK for the number.A lot of guys are wishy-washy and they do the "scared salesman close": "Uhm... do you... uh... think you might want to give me your number so I could call you sometime... maybe... if it's not too much trouble...?"
That's totally weak. You must simply TELL her what you want."Give me your phone number - so we can continue this conversation sometime." Pull out your cell phone and just wait for her to give it to you.It's that simple. And by telling her why, you've even removed any possible questions she might have had in her head about why.Remember that women want you to be confident enough for BOTH you and her. She's looking to YOU to determine how she should feel about the interaction. Your confidence will spill over to her - letting her know that she can feel safe with you, and you're going to be the MAN - the one with the initiative to fulfill all those romantic fantasies of hers.
To lead and open up the conversation and explore for common interests, practice active listening. Run with the thread of conversation to expand on it after repeating what you hear from her. For instance, she said, "I don't really go out much, my friends begged me to come with them." Your response is, "I know how that feels, and like you, bars are not really in my top 10 of best places to be in. Me and my friends mostly hang out and have more fun at private house parties. It allows us to catch up better. What do you and your friends do most?" Then give her some space. You have just led her to continue the conversation and could let you know more about her interests.
You must be more dominant and expect success. Try the routines below and pick the one that works the best for you and use this exact sequence every time you talk to a woman and you want to get her phone number. The key here is to just act like it is completely natural and eventually it will become that way. In a very short time, it will become a habit and you will be supremely confident with it."It was great to meet you...I'll see you around" You have said your goodbyes so quickly that they will feel a temporarily feeling of loss. Just a moment ago, they were having a good time with you and now suddenly you are leaving. This will seem really unusual as most women are used to guys clinging to them. So when you do this you will differentiate yourself in a good way. Then, just as you go to walk away, turn back around and
Asking for the number. The final say comes when you need to ask for the number. However, this is a non issue because of the work you've done ahead of time in building rapport. You shouldn't be concerned, it will be natural. Whenever you find something you both are interested in, simply add "we should try that together some time..." Usually she will say it for you. From there, you can take a natural step to request for her number. Just add "let's trade cell phones and I'll call you to set it up.... here, pen your name and number in." and give her your phone.
This is usually done by clicking on the menu and pressing "clear contacts". Just be sure you don't delete all her contacts. As you hand the phone back you can say the following prize line with a smile "I just swopped number with you...Just to save you the awkwardness of having to ask me for my number before I leave". You should go for the phone number over her email address every time. However, you can easily get both if you approach it in the right manner. A Person will naturally give their email out to somebody far more easily than their phone number as it is less personal. In fact, if you have any connection with this person at all, it's likely that they will give you their email. This works especially well in coffee shops or in quiet bars. It also works better if you have a pen and paper with you. After you have spoken to her for a short while, you can take your leave but before you go, simply say "Do you have an email?"
This is a very basic question and will start to build a yes ladder. She will answer yes and you then hand her the pen and paper and tell her to write it down. You treat her yes as confirmation that she wants to give you her email. This is also an attraction test and the more she invests in you, the more she will be willing to invest in the future. As she is writing down her email address, you simply say, ""Write down your number too!".In the example above, you have broken down the giving of the number into two steps, which dramatically improves the chances. The strength of this method is that you are asking them to write their phone number down as they are writing down their email and, in doing so; you have built a very powerful compliance momentum.By asking for her email, you have given her a very small attraction test and if you have any value built at all, she will comply with you. It's very low risk and most people give out an email address without thinking about it. Asking for the phone number is much more personal, but by asking for it while they are writing down their email, your chances of success will skyrocket. Try it and you will realise how powerful this is!
But it's not always easy to get a woman's phone number. So how do you do it?It's not as risky as asking for her address, but most women are still pretty protective of their phone numbers! Getting her interested in you is important and so is getting her to trust you're not a stalker/serial killer. But there are other ways to step-up your chances of getting her number which I will show you below.Don't just be another guy hitting on her.Don't say or do the expected. A woman is used to being approached by guys, especially if she's attractive. You don't want to be "just another guy". Avoid pick up lines and boring questions like what she does for a living.
Make great eye contact.It's an easy thing to do but some guys go wrong here. You may just be nervous but if you don't look a girl in the eyes you will seem untrustworthy. On the other hand I don't suggest an unwavering stare either, that can be creepy and unnerving A good tip is to alternate unselfconsciously between eye contact and watching her lips as she speaks. If you're interested in what she has to say this shouldn't be that unnatural.
And it offers up something that sounds attractive to a woman - "re-connecting." Women are motivated to focus on relationships and connections with people more than anything else, so the thought of re-connecting is especially powerful for her.How to get a girls number - Step 3) Never ASK for the number.A lot of guys are wishy-washy and they do the "scared salesman close": "Uhm... do you... uh... think you might want to give me your number so I could call you sometime... maybe... if it's not too much trouble...?"
That's totally weak. You must simply TELL her what you want."Give me your phone number - so we can continue this conversation sometime." Pull out your cell phone and just wait for her to give it to you.It's that simple. And by telling her why, you've even removed any possible questions she might have had in her head about why.Remember that women want you to be confident enough for BOTH you and her. She's looking to YOU to determine how she should feel about the interaction. Your confidence will spill over to her - letting her know that she can feel safe with you, and you're going to be the MAN - the one with the initiative to fulfill all those romantic fantasies of hers.
To lead and open up the conversation and explore for common interests, practice active listening. Run with the thread of conversation to expand on it after repeating what you hear from her. For instance, she said, "I don't really go out much, my friends begged me to come with them." Your response is, "I know how that feels, and like you, bars are not really in my top 10 of best places to be in. Me and my friends mostly hang out and have more fun at private house parties. It allows us to catch up better. What do you and your friends do most?" Then give her some space. You have just led her to continue the conversation and could let you know more about her interests.
You must be more dominant and expect success. Try the routines below and pick the one that works the best for you and use this exact sequence every time you talk to a woman and you want to get her phone number. The key here is to just act like it is completely natural and eventually it will become that way. In a very short time, it will become a habit and you will be supremely confident with it."It was great to meet you...I'll see you around" You have said your goodbyes so quickly that they will feel a temporarily feeling of loss. Just a moment ago, they were having a good time with you and now suddenly you are leaving. This will seem really unusual as most women are used to guys clinging to them. So when you do this you will differentiate yourself in a good way. Then, just as you go to walk away, turn back around and
Asking for the number. The final say comes when you need to ask for the number. However, this is a non issue because of the work you've done ahead of time in building rapport. You shouldn't be concerned, it will be natural. Whenever you find something you both are interested in, simply add "we should try that together some time..." Usually she will say it for you. From there, you can take a natural step to request for her number. Just add "let's trade cell phones and I'll call you to set it up.... here, pen your name and number in." and give her your phone.
This is usually done by clicking on the menu and pressing "clear contacts". Just be sure you don't delete all her contacts. As you hand the phone back you can say the following prize line with a smile "I just swopped number with you...Just to save you the awkwardness of having to ask me for my number before I leave". You should go for the phone number over her email address every time. However, you can easily get both if you approach it in the right manner. A Person will naturally give their email out to somebody far more easily than their phone number as it is less personal. In fact, if you have any connection with this person at all, it's likely that they will give you their email. This works especially well in coffee shops or in quiet bars. It also works better if you have a pen and paper with you. After you have spoken to her for a short while, you can take your leave but before you go, simply say "Do you have an email?"
This is a very basic question and will start to build a yes ladder. She will answer yes and you then hand her the pen and paper and tell her to write it down. You treat her yes as confirmation that she wants to give you her email. This is also an attraction test and the more she invests in you, the more she will be willing to invest in the future. As she is writing down her email address, you simply say, ""Write down your number too!".In the example above, you have broken down the giving of the number into two steps, which dramatically improves the chances. The strength of this method is that you are asking them to write their phone number down as they are writing down their email and, in doing so; you have built a very powerful compliance momentum.By asking for her email, you have given her a very small attraction test and if you have any value built at all, she will comply with you. It's very low risk and most people give out an email address without thinking about it. Asking for the phone number is much more personal, but by asking for it while they are writing down their email, your chances of success will skyrocket. Try it and you will realise how powerful this is!
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