When attempting to hook up, the very first thing a man should do is clearly to survey the market. If you are a professional at approaching girls you could approach any person you desire but for the rest of us, we have to up our possibilities a little by prequalifying the readily available resources.
About 90% of the difference between someone who's really good with women and someone who's mediocre with women is the ability to spot a woman who is open to approach. This sounds unrealistic, but logically it makes sense. If you walk into a bar and go up to any woman without knowing what signs to look for, your odds of success go way down.
You must know how to spot that woman who's already in this receptive state, so you can walk up and be "that guy." Don't buy into the myth that women don't want to be picked up. Women want to be approached and picked up just as much as men want to hook up.
Many times, men and women don't hook up because so many guys are afraid to go for it. And when this doesn't happen, the girls end up going home alone or worse...becomes bitchy to the guys in the bar/being resentful and angry because no one's approaching them. There are a few excellent indicators that will (especially in a bar atmosphere) tell you if a woman is game, or open to approach.
Which girl is open to approach? What to watch out for:
The initial indicator is a woman looking down very often. When a girl is in a bar atmosphere and looking down, she's accessing her emotional brain.
And if she tips her head down as well, she's physically dropping herself a little bit lower and showing submission. Women that will be open to approach must automatically take the submissive role as a girl.
Another quality is that she's actively looking around to make eye contact. This is crucial. A woman who is engaged with someone specifically and not looking away is not going to be as open to approach. So instead, if you see a woman who is in a conversation but constantly looking around and trying to make eye contact with other people, this is probably a very good opportunity for you and that's a woman you can walk up to and start building rapport.
Other traits are revealed in the way they're moving and how they're dressed. Let's say she's standing with her feet about shoulder-width apart. It's less likely that a woman standing like this is going to be available for you to walk up and dominate. That's because she's standing in a dominant position, with stronger body language and she'll probably be a lot more resistant. Instead, you want to find a woman who takes up less space. She has her legs closer together and seems to be outside of a group, looking around a little bit.
Another thing is the way she's dressed. If she's dressed in a way that's super flashy and attracting lots of attention, she probably isn't the kind of girl you can walk up to and easily start a conversation. These kinds of women are looking for attention - not for someone to dominate them. What you want is someone who's in between "I don't care" and "Stare at my tits, bitch!" Somewhere between wearing sweatpants to done up really, really beautiful and sexy with a low-cut shirt.
A great deal of women that are on vacation come under this realm. They do not desire to over dress or under dress, and have no idea how the bar atmosphere will be. They'll typically come in open-minded, and begin looking around trying to make hookups. This is a great scenario for you (and her, naturally).
That's what to look for and just how you identify her in the first place. If you see some of these cues, observe her for a second and if you believe that she is open to approach then proceed.
About 90% of the difference between someone who's really good with women and someone who's mediocre with women is the ability to spot a woman who is open to approach. This sounds unrealistic, but logically it makes sense. If you walk into a bar and go up to any woman without knowing what signs to look for, your odds of success go way down.
You must know how to spot that woman who's already in this receptive state, so you can walk up and be "that guy." Don't buy into the myth that women don't want to be picked up. Women want to be approached and picked up just as much as men want to hook up.
Many times, men and women don't hook up because so many guys are afraid to go for it. And when this doesn't happen, the girls end up going home alone or worse...becomes bitchy to the guys in the bar/being resentful and angry because no one's approaching them. There are a few excellent indicators that will (especially in a bar atmosphere) tell you if a woman is game, or open to approach.
Which girl is open to approach? What to watch out for:
The initial indicator is a woman looking down very often. When a girl is in a bar atmosphere and looking down, she's accessing her emotional brain.
And if she tips her head down as well, she's physically dropping herself a little bit lower and showing submission. Women that will be open to approach must automatically take the submissive role as a girl.
Another quality is that she's actively looking around to make eye contact. This is crucial. A woman who is engaged with someone specifically and not looking away is not going to be as open to approach. So instead, if you see a woman who is in a conversation but constantly looking around and trying to make eye contact with other people, this is probably a very good opportunity for you and that's a woman you can walk up to and start building rapport.
Other traits are revealed in the way they're moving and how they're dressed. Let's say she's standing with her feet about shoulder-width apart. It's less likely that a woman standing like this is going to be available for you to walk up and dominate. That's because she's standing in a dominant position, with stronger body language and she'll probably be a lot more resistant. Instead, you want to find a woman who takes up less space. She has her legs closer together and seems to be outside of a group, looking around a little bit.
Another thing is the way she's dressed. If she's dressed in a way that's super flashy and attracting lots of attention, she probably isn't the kind of girl you can walk up to and easily start a conversation. These kinds of women are looking for attention - not for someone to dominate them. What you want is someone who's in between "I don't care" and "Stare at my tits, bitch!" Somewhere between wearing sweatpants to done up really, really beautiful and sexy with a low-cut shirt.
A great deal of women that are on vacation come under this realm. They do not desire to over dress or under dress, and have no idea how the bar atmosphere will be. They'll typically come in open-minded, and begin looking around trying to make hookups. This is a great scenario for you (and her, naturally).
That's what to look for and just how you identify her in the first place. If you see some of these cues, observe her for a second and if you believe that she is open to approach then proceed.
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