The Opening and what to say is probably the most difficult and arguably the most important part of interacting with a new woman. Assuming you handled your approach anxiety, brushed up on your confidence and grooming, the next part is, what do you say?
Before The Game and the proliferation of pickup artists, you can probably say anything witty and get away with it, but now girls are wise to the ways of the pickup artists and watch out for anything that smells like a pickup. As a result, you want to stay away from the canned pickup lines. Most Relationship gurus and pickup coaches now teach newbies to keep away from the canned approaches and encourage them to build a more natural opener.
However, for the absolute rookie without idea what to say, you should pick from among the canned approaches and spin a variation on it. Keep the topic but don't go verbatim, modify the material. The book "Mating Intelligence Unleashed" says that the majority of women prefer an indirect approach over a direct approach. However, a direct approach has the advantage in that it lets the woman know your exact intentions from the start so no PUA games or misunderstanding. It's all personal preference so pick a couple of openers, spin it to make it sound natural, and practice, practice, practice.
Direct Openers:
Compliment her on something she's wearing or her hair or just style in general. The trick is compliment openers are to never compliment her on her physical beauty. "You have an amazing energy about you." "You have a cool style." "That's an incredible purse, watch, etc."
Excuse me, I need to tell you something... I just saw you from over there, thought you looked really nice and had to come over and say something.
Hey, I like you. I 'd like to get to know you. Hey, What's up? Where are you going? You're adorable, are you friendly?
You guys are so adorable. You have such a cute group dynamic going on. I want to meet you guys.
My name is Joe, how are you? You look like someone I want to meet.
"I just had the most INCREDIBLE day." Then tell her what happened, something cool - AND detailed. After a ten minute talk of how wonderful your life is lately, you then cap it with, "And now I met you."
Hey, I like the way you carry yourself, and you seem like you could be interesting. But I should get going, so let's exchange information and continue this later on.
Hi. You look like somebody I should get to know, but I'm in a hurry right now. Still, I don't want to pass such a wonderful opportunity to meet someone like you. I'd like to see you again at a place where we could talk and get to know each other.
Indirect Openers:
Are you shy? I've been standing here talking to my friend for like 10 minutes now and you still haven't said hello.
Come on it's not that bad, it's Saturday evening, the songs's great, the dance floor's pumping, why aren't you up there having a great time? Don't you hate it when people do that, you're sitting here minding your own business and somebody comes up forcing you to have a good time. Like, I was at work recently standing by the coffee maker and this girl comes up to me and said, "Smile, it may not happen." I was just thinking, why doesn't she mind her own business, I was minding my own. Well ... I've pretty much just killed my own conversation, so unless you have any questions for me I'll be getting back to my buddies."
Hey guys, help me out, I had this song stuck in my head ALL day and I can't remember who sings it. It goes, "you spin me right round baby right round like a record player right round, round round... who sings that???... I was talking to my mom earlier today and she said its Lionel Richie... but I KNOW that isn't right!
You know that Frowning burns more calories than smiling? But it's ok... I understand why you need to keep it on. I can see you are mid-way in your gym schedule.... You obviously wanna beat the other girls in your group... I won't let you beat them coz using frowning to lose weight is unfair... I will make it my job in these few minutes to make you smile...
OMG! ... did you see those 2 girls fighting outside? Like right outside the club... they were completely going at it; one was pulling the other's hair, and the other one drew blood with her nails. And they seemed to be fighting over this short dude; he was standing near them just totally giggling!
I'm lost... I can't find my friends and I'm scared... Remember when we were kids and you could just make new friends whenever you wanted... "Want to be my friend?"
Grab a magazine, newspaper, book, item, anything, then just examine it, and turn to her and ask, "What do you think of (...)?" or "Can you believe (...)!?" or "What is your opinion about (...)?"
Do you like Justin Timberlake? Yeah he's hot ah? You know lots of people have told me that I look exactly like Justin Timberlake?
What are you trying to find? Everyone is searching for something, unless ... you've found it. My name's, what's yours?
You look like you're thinking about something funny. What is it?
Opinion Openers:
I need your opinion on something. I'm thinking about dying my hair blonde. What do you think?
Hey can I ask your opinion. I've been thinking about seeing (the latest chick flick) but my friends said I would be gay if I went to see the movie. What do you think... is it ok for a guy to watch romantic movies?
Can I get your honest opinion on something ... do I look gay? Because something really funny just happened, this dude was hitting on me in that other bar!?
Hey guys, I need a female opinion... we were just at Saks today, and there were all these $600 collared tee-shirts. When chicks see guys wearing $600 shirts like that, do they think its stylish or trying too hard?
Hey, I need your opinion on something. Do I look better with my glasses off (take glasses off) or with my glasses on? (put glasses on).
Hey, give me some advice: Tomorrow is mother's day and I need a present. What do you suggest? But no mama's boy presents.
What's your VIEW on this situation? Whats your TAKE on that situation? I need a female perspective?
Hey, I need your opinion on something. I'm going on a blind date with some woman and I am really worried about it. Is there any tips you can give me so I don't appear like an idiot. I don't really know how to dress to impress or act properly.
Before The Game and the proliferation of pickup artists, you can probably say anything witty and get away with it, but now girls are wise to the ways of the pickup artists and watch out for anything that smells like a pickup. As a result, you want to stay away from the canned pickup lines. Most Relationship gurus and pickup coaches now teach newbies to keep away from the canned approaches and encourage them to build a more natural opener.
However, for the absolute rookie without idea what to say, you should pick from among the canned approaches and spin a variation on it. Keep the topic but don't go verbatim, modify the material. The book "Mating Intelligence Unleashed" says that the majority of women prefer an indirect approach over a direct approach. However, a direct approach has the advantage in that it lets the woman know your exact intentions from the start so no PUA games or misunderstanding. It's all personal preference so pick a couple of openers, spin it to make it sound natural, and practice, practice, practice.
Direct Openers:
Compliment her on something she's wearing or her hair or just style in general. The trick is compliment openers are to never compliment her on her physical beauty. "You have an amazing energy about you." "You have a cool style." "That's an incredible purse, watch, etc."
Excuse me, I need to tell you something... I just saw you from over there, thought you looked really nice and had to come over and say something.
Hey, I like you. I 'd like to get to know you. Hey, What's up? Where are you going? You're adorable, are you friendly?
You guys are so adorable. You have such a cute group dynamic going on. I want to meet you guys.
My name is Joe, how are you? You look like someone I want to meet.
"I just had the most INCREDIBLE day." Then tell her what happened, something cool - AND detailed. After a ten minute talk of how wonderful your life is lately, you then cap it with, "And now I met you."
Hey, I like the way you carry yourself, and you seem like you could be interesting. But I should get going, so let's exchange information and continue this later on.
Hi. You look like somebody I should get to know, but I'm in a hurry right now. Still, I don't want to pass such a wonderful opportunity to meet someone like you. I'd like to see you again at a place where we could talk and get to know each other.
Indirect Openers:
Are you shy? I've been standing here talking to my friend for like 10 minutes now and you still haven't said hello.
Come on it's not that bad, it's Saturday evening, the songs's great, the dance floor's pumping, why aren't you up there having a great time? Don't you hate it when people do that, you're sitting here minding your own business and somebody comes up forcing you to have a good time. Like, I was at work recently standing by the coffee maker and this girl comes up to me and said, "Smile, it may not happen." I was just thinking, why doesn't she mind her own business, I was minding my own. Well ... I've pretty much just killed my own conversation, so unless you have any questions for me I'll be getting back to my buddies."
Hey guys, help me out, I had this song stuck in my head ALL day and I can't remember who sings it. It goes, "you spin me right round baby right round like a record player right round, round round... who sings that???... I was talking to my mom earlier today and she said its Lionel Richie... but I KNOW that isn't right!
You know that Frowning burns more calories than smiling? But it's ok... I understand why you need to keep it on. I can see you are mid-way in your gym schedule.... You obviously wanna beat the other girls in your group... I won't let you beat them coz using frowning to lose weight is unfair... I will make it my job in these few minutes to make you smile...
OMG! ... did you see those 2 girls fighting outside? Like right outside the club... they were completely going at it; one was pulling the other's hair, and the other one drew blood with her nails. And they seemed to be fighting over this short dude; he was standing near them just totally giggling!
I'm lost... I can't find my friends and I'm scared... Remember when we were kids and you could just make new friends whenever you wanted... "Want to be my friend?"
Grab a magazine, newspaper, book, item, anything, then just examine it, and turn to her and ask, "What do you think of (...)?" or "Can you believe (...)!?" or "What is your opinion about (...)?"
Do you like Justin Timberlake? Yeah he's hot ah? You know lots of people have told me that I look exactly like Justin Timberlake?
What are you trying to find? Everyone is searching for something, unless ... you've found it. My name's, what's yours?
You look like you're thinking about something funny. What is it?
Opinion Openers:
I need your opinion on something. I'm thinking about dying my hair blonde. What do you think?
Hey can I ask your opinion. I've been thinking about seeing (the latest chick flick) but my friends said I would be gay if I went to see the movie. What do you think... is it ok for a guy to watch romantic movies?
Can I get your honest opinion on something ... do I look gay? Because something really funny just happened, this dude was hitting on me in that other bar!?
Hey guys, I need a female opinion... we were just at Saks today, and there were all these $600 collared tee-shirts. When chicks see guys wearing $600 shirts like that, do they think its stylish or trying too hard?
Hey, I need your opinion on something. Do I look better with my glasses off (take glasses off) or with my glasses on? (put glasses on).
Hey, give me some advice: Tomorrow is mother's day and I need a present. What do you suggest? But no mama's boy presents.
What's your VIEW on this situation? Whats your TAKE on that situation? I need a female perspective?
Hey, I need your opinion on something. I'm going on a blind date with some woman and I am really worried about it. Is there any tips you can give me so I don't appear like an idiot. I don't really know how to dress to impress or act properly.
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