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Cultivating Patience When You Are Still In Love With Your Ex

By Cathy Quinn


Do You Really Love Your Ex Boyfriend?

Unfortunately, sometimes problems occur. Misunderstandings happen and we lose the affections of someone that we truly love and value. What do you do when your world comes crashing down and the one person that you love and admire rejects you?

You are sure that you are still in love with your ex boyfriend. You want him back in your life every day. You want to talk to him when good things happen in your life and when bad things happen but do you truly love him?

I know this sounds strange but there is a big difference between loving someone and wanting to posess them. Loving your ex boyfriend means that you want the best for him and you want him to be happy. You can still love him without even seeing him again. You can close your eyes and think of him and wish that good things happen in his life. You can remember good times you had and be happy for the time that you had together. Loving him doesn't require that he tell you that he loves you or for him to even like you. If you love him you simply love him.

On the other hand, if you want to get back together with him because you want to be sure that he loves only you and is with only you in a relationship then we're talking about something completely different. Love is also involved in such a relationship but loving someone doesn't mean that they have to be with you.

Sometimes by simply loving someone we can actually attract them back into our life in a way that no amount of convincing or talking ever could. By just loving your ex boyfriend you can have peace about your feelings because they don't require any validation or reciprocation. By loving your boyfriend in your heart and wanting the best for him, even if that means him not being with you for a period of time because your emotions and desires to posess him scared him away, can bring him back. By backing off and just loving him you can bring him back.

Try this trick for a week or so. Any time you feel yourself getting upset because your boyfriend isn't with you, close your eyes and remember a pleasant memory from when you were together. Spend some time each night before you go to be just loving him. Love him without reservation and without demands. Think about the things you love about him and open your heart to him. These emotions will find their way to him and it is thought that he will feel that love and respond to it.

In the end, the amount of time that you spend apart is nothing when compared to spending the rest of your life together being happy. Be strong and look at this breakup as a wake up call. Look at the time apart as an opportunity to build the kind of life that your ex will be happy to be a part of. Look at your ex as someone that has been wounded or led astray. You love them so show them how much you love them by putting your own needs aside temporarily. There will come a day when your ex will be astounded by the depth of the love that you hold for them. Remember, you can and will get back together with your ex if you keep a positive and optimistic attitude about your breakup.




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