The doubt and frustration after a breakup can be maddening. Wondering if you still have a chance of getting back together with your ex can be confusing. Often what your ex says and what they do seem to be in opposition. They might tell you one thing yet you have this nagging feeling that they are still in love with you. You feel that there is still hope. You want to get back together but every attempt to reunite is met with opposition.
Wresting with your emotions and gauging what your ex might do next can be a futile effort. Attempting to read into their actions and words as you grasp for a sliver of hope that your relationship is not beyond repair can be difficult. You want to know if your ex misses you and if they feel any sort of love for you right now. There is a very good chance that your ex is every bit as confused as you are right now, as well. Their emotions might run from hating you one moment to missing you the next. To be sure of what is going on with your ex, here are some tips that should tell you how your ex is feeling about you these days.
If you hear from some of your friends or family members that you ex was in touch with them then there is a good chance that your ex is missing you. Your ex might say that they were simply catching up with old friends or that they didn't want to be rude to your family but the truth is probably something completely different. For your ex to contact your mutual friends or your immediate family, there is probably still some love there for you and a feeling of loss that they needed to address. Contacting people close to you is a passive way of contacting you without disturbing you or contacting you directly.
Of course, when you get this news, try not to dig for information. Keep your private life, your thoughts and emotions to yourself. Try not to drop hints to your friends or family that you're still in love with your ex. Let your ex come to you. Don't use your friends or family as mediators and don't allow them to get stuck in the middle of the reunion process. While all of this is a good sign, be reserved and let your friends and family know that it's perfectly fine that they communicate with your ex and that you hold no ill will towards your ex.
The next clue that your ex still feels something for you will be that they contact you directly. They might have a question or a lame excuse to get in touch with you such as wanting to return some things that they found or yous or to ask you a simple question such as where something is that they misplaced. The truth is that they are contacting you to either see how you are, hear your voice again or to open up the lines of communication. Your ex will have moments when they will miss you every bit as much as you miss them. The desire to connect with the person that was once so close to them can be overwhelming and they will reach out to you in this moment of weakness.
Before you go running around the house dancing for joy, understand that you still need to be cool and calm. You need to hide your emotions and avoid talking about the breakup, how sorry you are, how you want to get back together or anything negative having to do with what happened in the past. Your ex probably already knows that you want to get back together. All of this might be a way for your ex to start that process of reuniting with you. Any talk about getting back together will scare them off, though. Getting back together is all about connecting and falling in love again. Keep your cool and avoid talking about it. Just let it happen.
Lastly, if you are still friends with your ex on some social networking sites or you find yourself looking at their profile to find out what is going on in their life, you might be surprised by what you find. If your ex is posting pictures of what they're doing or status updates about how wonderful their life is then they very well might be missing you. Even photos of someone new that they're dating or how happy they are will be signs that they are trying too hard to prove to the world that they are happy without you.
Checking on your ex through social networking sites is probably one of the most dangerous things you can do. The emotional torment and wasted time looking at updates and trying to read into everything can confuse your mind. It's easy to create some very bad scenarios inside your mind and it is very much a one sided conversation at this point. Try not to read into things too much. If your ex is posting photos of them with new people or even someone that they just started dating then you can be almost positive that they're trying to make you jealous or make it appear that they have moved on. This will often backfire on them. Not wanting to show that they are in emotional pain will cause them to hide their grief until they finally break down one day. It will happen. Just be sure you are prepared for that day.
It would be easy to continue to doubt that your ex has feelings for you. Often, people hide their emotions and cover them with other emotions such as hate, apparent apathy or anger. Be sure that if you notice any of these signs that your ex does still feel something for you. They will miss you no matter how much they might want to appear as if they don't miss you. They still love you no matter what they might say or do with their life. Your challenge is to make them fall in love with you again. Your goal needs to be to bring that love to the surface passively. Get your confidence back and be ready for the day when your ex simply can't stand being apart from you. Know in your hear that this day is coming and get to work formulating a plan for what you are going to say and do to get your ex back.
Wresting with your emotions and gauging what your ex might do next can be a futile effort. Attempting to read into their actions and words as you grasp for a sliver of hope that your relationship is not beyond repair can be difficult. You want to know if your ex misses you and if they feel any sort of love for you right now. There is a very good chance that your ex is every bit as confused as you are right now, as well. Their emotions might run from hating you one moment to missing you the next. To be sure of what is going on with your ex, here are some tips that should tell you how your ex is feeling about you these days.
If you hear from some of your friends or family members that you ex was in touch with them then there is a good chance that your ex is missing you. Your ex might say that they were simply catching up with old friends or that they didn't want to be rude to your family but the truth is probably something completely different. For your ex to contact your mutual friends or your immediate family, there is probably still some love there for you and a feeling of loss that they needed to address. Contacting people close to you is a passive way of contacting you without disturbing you or contacting you directly.
Of course, when you get this news, try not to dig for information. Keep your private life, your thoughts and emotions to yourself. Try not to drop hints to your friends or family that you're still in love with your ex. Let your ex come to you. Don't use your friends or family as mediators and don't allow them to get stuck in the middle of the reunion process. While all of this is a good sign, be reserved and let your friends and family know that it's perfectly fine that they communicate with your ex and that you hold no ill will towards your ex.
The next clue that your ex still feels something for you will be that they contact you directly. They might have a question or a lame excuse to get in touch with you such as wanting to return some things that they found or yous or to ask you a simple question such as where something is that they misplaced. The truth is that they are contacting you to either see how you are, hear your voice again or to open up the lines of communication. Your ex will have moments when they will miss you every bit as much as you miss them. The desire to connect with the person that was once so close to them can be overwhelming and they will reach out to you in this moment of weakness.
Before you go running around the house dancing for joy, understand that you still need to be cool and calm. You need to hide your emotions and avoid talking about the breakup, how sorry you are, how you want to get back together or anything negative having to do with what happened in the past. Your ex probably already knows that you want to get back together. All of this might be a way for your ex to start that process of reuniting with you. Any talk about getting back together will scare them off, though. Getting back together is all about connecting and falling in love again. Keep your cool and avoid talking about it. Just let it happen.
Lastly, if you are still friends with your ex on some social networking sites or you find yourself looking at their profile to find out what is going on in their life, you might be surprised by what you find. If your ex is posting pictures of what they're doing or status updates about how wonderful their life is then they very well might be missing you. Even photos of someone new that they're dating or how happy they are will be signs that they are trying too hard to prove to the world that they are happy without you.
Checking on your ex through social networking sites is probably one of the most dangerous things you can do. The emotional torment and wasted time looking at updates and trying to read into everything can confuse your mind. It's easy to create some very bad scenarios inside your mind and it is very much a one sided conversation at this point. Try not to read into things too much. If your ex is posting photos of them with new people or even someone that they just started dating then you can be almost positive that they're trying to make you jealous or make it appear that they have moved on. This will often backfire on them. Not wanting to show that they are in emotional pain will cause them to hide their grief until they finally break down one day. It will happen. Just be sure you are prepared for that day.
It would be easy to continue to doubt that your ex has feelings for you. Often, people hide their emotions and cover them with other emotions such as hate, apparent apathy or anger. Be sure that if you notice any of these signs that your ex does still feel something for you. They will miss you no matter how much they might want to appear as if they don't miss you. They still love you no matter what they might say or do with their life. Your challenge is to make them fall in love with you again. Your goal needs to be to bring that love to the surface passively. Get your confidence back and be ready for the day when your ex simply can't stand being apart from you. Know in your hear that this day is coming and get to work formulating a plan for what you are going to say and do to get your ex back.
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