The emotions that you're feeling in the wake of your breakup are perfectly normal. The doubt and despair as well as the confusion and sadness over your loss strike your heart like an arrow. Trying to sort out what your ex might be feeling can leave you perplexed and grasping at straws as you attempt to decipher what your ex says and what they do. Does your ex still love you or was it all a dream?
Sorting out your own feelings and deciding what you should do in such a situation can be heartbreaking. Does your ex still love you? Does your ex miss you? Should you try talking things through with your ex or should you wait for them to come back to you? The truth is that your ex very well might be as confused as you are right now but take a hint from these signs that your ex does still love you and hold fast to the hope that you can get back together with your ex.
First, have you heard from family or friends that your ex has been in touch? Has your ex reached out to people that you know in an attempt to find out how you're doing or if you still have feelings for them? This is almost a sure sign that your ex is still in love with you. Connecting with mutual friends or talking with your family is a subtle way for your ex to connect with you without actually talking with you.
The temptation to either become angry with your friends and family for talking with your ex might be your initial reaction. Instead of lashing out at them, recognize this communication between your ex and the people around you as a feeble attempt to get information about you. It might be best if you keep your thoughts and feelings to yourself at this point. Dragging your close friends into your relationship right now isn't a good idea. Let your ex become frustrated when they can't get any real information out of these resources and make your ex contact you directly instead. Using a third party to help you get your ex back isn't a good idea, no matter how clever you might think it is.
Next, has your ex tried contacting you directly to ask you a mundane question or to set up a meeting so they can return your belongings? If your ex misses you and still has feelings for you, they might reach out to you directly to hear your voice and satisfy that urge to connect with you. As much as you miss your ex and the daily contact that you once had, your ex is still a human being and taking something as important as an intimate relationship away will cause them to feel some loss. This is perfectly natural.
Try to resist the urge to talk about the breakup or anything having to do with getting back together. You can be glad to hear their voice or happy to receive their message but keep you wits about you. Keep your thoughts and emotions to yourself concerning getting back together. If you feel that you aren't ready to see your ex at the moment, find an excuse to put off meeting with them or avoid their phone call for the moment. It is crucially important that you exude confidence and happiness at this point in the process of getting back together. Your actions and body language will speak volumes so resist the temptation and don't speak about getting back together until they voice their desire.
The next place that you are probably looking for clues that will tell you what your ex feels for you is social networking websites. There's a good chance that both of you are looking at each others profiles and spying on each other. This might not be the best idea but it happens. If you notice that your ex is posting a lot of photos that show how happy they are or status messages about what they're doing then you can be sure that these messages are for you. Does it look like your ex is trying just a little bit too hard to convince the world that they're happy? If so then there's a good chance that they're missing you a lot.
Checking out their social networking profiles can be stressful. You never know what you're going to find. Dread overcomes you and your heart drops when you see something new. Try not to take any of this to heart. Often an ex will try just a little too hard to send a message that they're doing fine without you when in fact they are hurting. Avoiding the grieving process can backfire and cause them to break down. Be waiting for this as your opportunity to get your ex back.
If you notice any of these signs that your ex misses you and is still in love with you, keep this information to yourself. Be happy about it but be patient. Don't try to reach out to your ex or confront them with this knowledge. Remain hopeful and work on getting your life and self-esteem back before you attempt to bring up the subject of getting back together. Let your ex fall in love with you all over again. There will come a breaking point and there's a very good chance that your ex is close to reaching that point. Be ready to catch them when they fall and understand that pushing your ex or trying to convince them to come back to you simply isn't going to work.
Sorting out your own feelings and deciding what you should do in such a situation can be heartbreaking. Does your ex still love you? Does your ex miss you? Should you try talking things through with your ex or should you wait for them to come back to you? The truth is that your ex very well might be as confused as you are right now but take a hint from these signs that your ex does still love you and hold fast to the hope that you can get back together with your ex.
First, have you heard from family or friends that your ex has been in touch? Has your ex reached out to people that you know in an attempt to find out how you're doing or if you still have feelings for them? This is almost a sure sign that your ex is still in love with you. Connecting with mutual friends or talking with your family is a subtle way for your ex to connect with you without actually talking with you.
The temptation to either become angry with your friends and family for talking with your ex might be your initial reaction. Instead of lashing out at them, recognize this communication between your ex and the people around you as a feeble attempt to get information about you. It might be best if you keep your thoughts and feelings to yourself at this point. Dragging your close friends into your relationship right now isn't a good idea. Let your ex become frustrated when they can't get any real information out of these resources and make your ex contact you directly instead. Using a third party to help you get your ex back isn't a good idea, no matter how clever you might think it is.
Next, has your ex tried contacting you directly to ask you a mundane question or to set up a meeting so they can return your belongings? If your ex misses you and still has feelings for you, they might reach out to you directly to hear your voice and satisfy that urge to connect with you. As much as you miss your ex and the daily contact that you once had, your ex is still a human being and taking something as important as an intimate relationship away will cause them to feel some loss. This is perfectly natural.
Try to resist the urge to talk about the breakup or anything having to do with getting back together. You can be glad to hear their voice or happy to receive their message but keep you wits about you. Keep your thoughts and emotions to yourself concerning getting back together. If you feel that you aren't ready to see your ex at the moment, find an excuse to put off meeting with them or avoid their phone call for the moment. It is crucially important that you exude confidence and happiness at this point in the process of getting back together. Your actions and body language will speak volumes so resist the temptation and don't speak about getting back together until they voice their desire.
The next place that you are probably looking for clues that will tell you what your ex feels for you is social networking websites. There's a good chance that both of you are looking at each others profiles and spying on each other. This might not be the best idea but it happens. If you notice that your ex is posting a lot of photos that show how happy they are or status messages about what they're doing then you can be sure that these messages are for you. Does it look like your ex is trying just a little bit too hard to convince the world that they're happy? If so then there's a good chance that they're missing you a lot.
Checking out their social networking profiles can be stressful. You never know what you're going to find. Dread overcomes you and your heart drops when you see something new. Try not to take any of this to heart. Often an ex will try just a little too hard to send a message that they're doing fine without you when in fact they are hurting. Avoiding the grieving process can backfire and cause them to break down. Be waiting for this as your opportunity to get your ex back.
If you notice any of these signs that your ex misses you and is still in love with you, keep this information to yourself. Be happy about it but be patient. Don't try to reach out to your ex or confront them with this knowledge. Remain hopeful and work on getting your life and self-esteem back before you attempt to bring up the subject of getting back together. Let your ex fall in love with you all over again. There will come a breaking point and there's a very good chance that your ex is close to reaching that point. Be ready to catch them when they fall and understand that pushing your ex or trying to convince them to come back to you simply isn't going to work.
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