Attracting the man of your dreams or any man, for that matter, probably isn't as difficult as you are making it out to be. Once you know a few secrets about what men find attractive and how men think, you can leverage this covert intelligence to attract and connect with any man. No matter what you look like, how much you believe that he's out of your league or even if he already has a girlfriend, you can attract and connect with any many you choose once you understand how men think and process attraction.
The differences between men and women are stark. Trying methods or treating a man in the same manner in which you wish to be treated simply isn't going to work. While we all want to be treated well and to have someone at least act as if they're interested in us, you are hoping that you become more than just a friend to him, right? You want him to be attracted to you. You want to be the only woman that he finds attractive. You want a man devoted to you and maybe even to fall in love with you. This is the kind of attraction that you are hoping for.
As you know already, men are primarily attracted to things visually. We could use cars as an example, among other things. A man will like a car because of how it makes him feel visually before he sits in it or takes it for a test drive. A man is also attracted to a woman visually initially and this will play a role throughout the courtship process as he becomes connected to you. Of course, eventually, that visual stimulation wears off and his decision about who he is attracted to takes other factors into consideration such as personality, character and temperament. Initially, you need to attract him visually before you can show him how wonderful you are. If you are worried now because you're not perfect or you feel that there is nothing visually attractive about you then just relax. All that is required is at least one single visual trigger for him to take notice of you and then the fun begins.
Maybe you have beautiful eyes or really nice hair. It could be that you have shapely legs or nice hair. Whatever it is that you can use to get his attention like a red cape in front of a bull, that is what you're going to focus on and accentuate. Forget about any feature or aspect of your appearance that you dislike. Focus on the positive things that you have and hide the negative things that you don't like about yourself for the moment. You simply need to turn his head for a moment and make him do a double take and you will know that you have him in your grasp.
Flirting is huge with men. They don't know it but they are attracted to women that flirt with them. Coming right out and telling a guy that you're interested in him will make him run for the nearest fire exit yet flirting with him will make him want to get to know you better. You might say that no self respecting woman flirts with guys these days. You might feel awkward or ridiculous flirting with a man like a high school cheerleader but it works. While every other girl in the room is too embarrassed to flirt with that guy, your feminine charm will outshine those wall flowers.
Have fun and be as flirty as you can possibly be. Try giggling and being coy to start and hit him with the heavy stuff as things progress. If he smiles then you're doing it right. Toss your hair or chew on a straw and make eye contact with him. If he appears to become embarrassed then you can resort to some of the more subtle types of flirting such as letting him catch you looking his way or a shy glance from out of the corner of your eye. If he smiles or appears interested then pour it on and have fun. Touching him when you're talking is great way to flirt. Touching is one of the most overlooked aspects of flirting yet it is very powerful.
Getting inside his mind and creating a deep connection with him is easily accomplished by talking with him. Engaging him in deep conversation where you both show that you're interested in him as a human being but also drawing him out to expose himself will be your goal. He may have a lot of people in his life that he considers close friends. He might even have women in his life that he dates from time to time but you're going to connect with him on a level that most people never attempt to connect with him on. By asking a certain type of question or line of questions that probe deep down into who he actually is, he will feel like he has known you all his life.
While we all tend to ask the same questions when we meet someone new such as what they do for a living, where they grew up or what they enjoy doing in their spare time, these are boring questions but they don't need to be. As he begins to give you the same answers that we all give to such questions, dig deeper into who he actually is. Ask him if he always wanted the career that he is in now or if he had other plans when he was younger. This will lead to more personal answer as you uncover who he actually is as a person. You'll learn about his dreams and goals for his life as well as his likes and dislikes. Sharing such personal information will lead him to feel something special for you. He will feel that you are different and you will learn more about him than most of his closest friends know simply because you were brave enough to ask personal questions. This bond is both real as well as emotional. When we share details about our life and our dreams, we become connected to that other person in a very real way. This is the path to bonding and intimacy.
For men, attraction is so much more than simply what meets the eye. No matter if you consider yourself plain looking or you fear that you're not intelligent enough to challenge the man you're interested in, you can attract him. It doesn't matter how handsome he is or how many other girls are vying for his attention. If you are brave and you understand what we have talked about here, you stand a very good chance of attracting him, connecting with him and building the kind of relationship you dream of with the guy of your dreams.
The differences between men and women are stark. Trying methods or treating a man in the same manner in which you wish to be treated simply isn't going to work. While we all want to be treated well and to have someone at least act as if they're interested in us, you are hoping that you become more than just a friend to him, right? You want him to be attracted to you. You want to be the only woman that he finds attractive. You want a man devoted to you and maybe even to fall in love with you. This is the kind of attraction that you are hoping for.
As you know already, men are primarily attracted to things visually. We could use cars as an example, among other things. A man will like a car because of how it makes him feel visually before he sits in it or takes it for a test drive. A man is also attracted to a woman visually initially and this will play a role throughout the courtship process as he becomes connected to you. Of course, eventually, that visual stimulation wears off and his decision about who he is attracted to takes other factors into consideration such as personality, character and temperament. Initially, you need to attract him visually before you can show him how wonderful you are. If you are worried now because you're not perfect or you feel that there is nothing visually attractive about you then just relax. All that is required is at least one single visual trigger for him to take notice of you and then the fun begins.
Maybe you have beautiful eyes or really nice hair. It could be that you have shapely legs or nice hair. Whatever it is that you can use to get his attention like a red cape in front of a bull, that is what you're going to focus on and accentuate. Forget about any feature or aspect of your appearance that you dislike. Focus on the positive things that you have and hide the negative things that you don't like about yourself for the moment. You simply need to turn his head for a moment and make him do a double take and you will know that you have him in your grasp.
Flirting is huge with men. They don't know it but they are attracted to women that flirt with them. Coming right out and telling a guy that you're interested in him will make him run for the nearest fire exit yet flirting with him will make him want to get to know you better. You might say that no self respecting woman flirts with guys these days. You might feel awkward or ridiculous flirting with a man like a high school cheerleader but it works. While every other girl in the room is too embarrassed to flirt with that guy, your feminine charm will outshine those wall flowers.
Have fun and be as flirty as you can possibly be. Try giggling and being coy to start and hit him with the heavy stuff as things progress. If he smiles then you're doing it right. Toss your hair or chew on a straw and make eye contact with him. If he appears to become embarrassed then you can resort to some of the more subtle types of flirting such as letting him catch you looking his way or a shy glance from out of the corner of your eye. If he smiles or appears interested then pour it on and have fun. Touching him when you're talking is great way to flirt. Touching is one of the most overlooked aspects of flirting yet it is very powerful.
Getting inside his mind and creating a deep connection with him is easily accomplished by talking with him. Engaging him in deep conversation where you both show that you're interested in him as a human being but also drawing him out to expose himself will be your goal. He may have a lot of people in his life that he considers close friends. He might even have women in his life that he dates from time to time but you're going to connect with him on a level that most people never attempt to connect with him on. By asking a certain type of question or line of questions that probe deep down into who he actually is, he will feel like he has known you all his life.
While we all tend to ask the same questions when we meet someone new such as what they do for a living, where they grew up or what they enjoy doing in their spare time, these are boring questions but they don't need to be. As he begins to give you the same answers that we all give to such questions, dig deeper into who he actually is. Ask him if he always wanted the career that he is in now or if he had other plans when he was younger. This will lead to more personal answer as you uncover who he actually is as a person. You'll learn about his dreams and goals for his life as well as his likes and dislikes. Sharing such personal information will lead him to feel something special for you. He will feel that you are different and you will learn more about him than most of his closest friends know simply because you were brave enough to ask personal questions. This bond is both real as well as emotional. When we share details about our life and our dreams, we become connected to that other person in a very real way. This is the path to bonding and intimacy.
For men, attraction is so much more than simply what meets the eye. No matter if you consider yourself plain looking or you fear that you're not intelligent enough to challenge the man you're interested in, you can attract him. It doesn't matter how handsome he is or how many other girls are vying for his attention. If you are brave and you understand what we have talked about here, you stand a very good chance of attracting him, connecting with him and building the kind of relationship you dream of with the guy of your dreams.
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