There can be no crime more despicable than abusing children. Too many parents find the responsibility of caring for an infant, toddler or teenager more than they can handle and strike out at their children in horrific ways. Often these parents were victims of abusive parents when they were growing up and have no other tools available to them for the task at hand. This lack of knowledge is not an adequate excuse for the pain they inflict on innocents. The children who survive and are able to rise above their situation are very often the best child abuse speakers.
These adult children are survivors and many have endured the worst kinds of mistreatment imaginable. Many have been beaten, starved or sexually violated from very young ages. Through living with the abuses dealt to them they have learned how to control their environment emotionally so that it is not as painful as it once may have been.
The abuse does not have to come from biological parents. Many times children are removed from one abusive home only to find themselves in another abusive situation at the hands of a foster parent. The abuses can come from siblings or step parents, close relatives or even their neighbors. Most children in these situations know instinctively that speaking about their plight will cause more beatings or abuses to occur and so much of the time these crimes go unreported.
Some survivors go on to be abusers themselves and perpetuate the same treatment on children or spouses of their own. Others use their life experiences to help others who may be in the same or similar situations. These individuals have been fortunate enough to find help with understanding what has happened to them and to channel that knowledge into programs designed to help others.
These individuals use their experience, strength and hope to motivate other victims to start moving through the pain and grief that they endured to reach a balanced existence where they can pursue their goals without carrying the burden of the abuses they endured. The main motivators they use is the success they have had in their lives.
Rather than being defeated by their abusers they become stronger and seek escape through self-reliance, literacy, and by building a life of consequence designed to improve themselves and their communities. They share how they used this inner strength and determination to overcome obstacles and reach the successes they enjoy today.
The presenters of these programs are not limited to public audiences but also make it a point to speak at seminars and conferences attended by police and social services personnel. Their goal is to help authorities to identify situations where children are in jeopardy of being harmed. They provide insights into the behaviors that may imply that abuses are taking place in the home.
Because family violence is so under reported advocates and especially survivors feel it is their duty to make the public aware of the tragedies that happen every day behind closed doors. They also have a desire to show others how to find the way out of the personal hell they may be living in.
These adult children are survivors and many have endured the worst kinds of mistreatment imaginable. Many have been beaten, starved or sexually violated from very young ages. Through living with the abuses dealt to them they have learned how to control their environment emotionally so that it is not as painful as it once may have been.
The abuse does not have to come from biological parents. Many times children are removed from one abusive home only to find themselves in another abusive situation at the hands of a foster parent. The abuses can come from siblings or step parents, close relatives or even their neighbors. Most children in these situations know instinctively that speaking about their plight will cause more beatings or abuses to occur and so much of the time these crimes go unreported.
Some survivors go on to be abusers themselves and perpetuate the same treatment on children or spouses of their own. Others use their life experiences to help others who may be in the same or similar situations. These individuals have been fortunate enough to find help with understanding what has happened to them and to channel that knowledge into programs designed to help others.
These individuals use their experience, strength and hope to motivate other victims to start moving through the pain and grief that they endured to reach a balanced existence where they can pursue their goals without carrying the burden of the abuses they endured. The main motivators they use is the success they have had in their lives.
Rather than being defeated by their abusers they become stronger and seek escape through self-reliance, literacy, and by building a life of consequence designed to improve themselves and their communities. They share how they used this inner strength and determination to overcome obstacles and reach the successes they enjoy today.
The presenters of these programs are not limited to public audiences but also make it a point to speak at seminars and conferences attended by police and social services personnel. Their goal is to help authorities to identify situations where children are in jeopardy of being harmed. They provide insights into the behaviors that may imply that abuses are taking place in the home.
Because family violence is so under reported advocates and especially survivors feel it is their duty to make the public aware of the tragedies that happen every day behind closed doors. They also have a desire to show others how to find the way out of the personal hell they may be living in.
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