Have you ever listened to somebody define anxiety in just such a way that would modify it down to its core?
I'll never forget sitting in class and having my master coach say to everyone nervously looking at him "Now a large amount of things are about to change in your life, and this can bring up some hysteria, but just think about anxiety as new things going down. "
Woah.
New things happening? I have never thought of it like that before. When we really get down to define anxiety in a firm sense, it's a feeling of worry or nervous tension about a situation which has a little bit of doubt surrounding it. What could happen next? What will the end result be? In a way, anxiety is an amazing indicator of forward thinking or "row boat thinking," a phrase I have recently coined.
What is the definition and the thought behind "row boat thinking?"
Each of us are supplied with a very interesting story through our lives that sounds a lot like this..."I'll be cheerful when this occurs. It will certainly all turn out when I arrive there. " The difficulty is, we are rowing toward this island that actually does not exist. We think it's there, but it really is one of the finest created mirages we have ever seen. It's sexy. It's beguiling. It's just enough to keep us grasping and thirsting for more. But there's great danger in this kind of thinking meanging that anxiousness can be our honest indicator that we are really caught in the activity of doing it in the first place.
Living in the future can have as many negative complications as living in the past. Everyone knows what it is actually like to want to escape our past, but I'm going to hang out on a limb to say that we absolutely must avoid living in the future as much. We can get stuck in some place, an especially unsure place, that frankly is beyond our control. Should you set goals and have a vision for what you truly desire out of your life? Positively. But the danger is building the foundation of your true happiness on such a place.
The one guarantee I'm able to make you about this life is that it'll change. You can't go to the past, the present is subject to change at any moment and the future is to be determined.
So what are we able to do?
That uncertainty...love it. Embrace the hell out of it. The uncertain places in your life are opportunities to have nothing short than delightful magic knock your socks off. Do you really know what is going to happen? Absolutely not. Will you try to project as much as practicable? Yes, we've all done that haven't we? But when you start coming back to the present moment, over and over again because our minds never stop getting distracted, you get to fully be here. Here really is a great spot to be. Start really seeing what is going on around you rather than spending too much time distracting yourself from everything that isn't in this moment.
So all nervousness actually is, when it comes down to it, is new things happening. Enjoy that feeling and sit with it. Actually take a little time to actually feel the anxiety in your stomach and then take a moment to start to appreciate why it's coming up. "In this moment, what is the thing that's happening at this time that is new?" When you begin to do that, well, things become lots more fun. But when you stop living in the future , the anxiety starts to leave altogether.
It is all about how we define anxiety in the first place.
I'll never forget sitting in class and having my master coach say to everyone nervously looking at him "Now a large amount of things are about to change in your life, and this can bring up some hysteria, but just think about anxiety as new things going down. "
Woah.
New things happening? I have never thought of it like that before. When we really get down to define anxiety in a firm sense, it's a feeling of worry or nervous tension about a situation which has a little bit of doubt surrounding it. What could happen next? What will the end result be? In a way, anxiety is an amazing indicator of forward thinking or "row boat thinking," a phrase I have recently coined.
What is the definition and the thought behind "row boat thinking?"
Each of us are supplied with a very interesting story through our lives that sounds a lot like this..."I'll be cheerful when this occurs. It will certainly all turn out when I arrive there. " The difficulty is, we are rowing toward this island that actually does not exist. We think it's there, but it really is one of the finest created mirages we have ever seen. It's sexy. It's beguiling. It's just enough to keep us grasping and thirsting for more. But there's great danger in this kind of thinking meanging that anxiousness can be our honest indicator that we are really caught in the activity of doing it in the first place.
Living in the future can have as many negative complications as living in the past. Everyone knows what it is actually like to want to escape our past, but I'm going to hang out on a limb to say that we absolutely must avoid living in the future as much. We can get stuck in some place, an especially unsure place, that frankly is beyond our control. Should you set goals and have a vision for what you truly desire out of your life? Positively. But the danger is building the foundation of your true happiness on such a place.
The one guarantee I'm able to make you about this life is that it'll change. You can't go to the past, the present is subject to change at any moment and the future is to be determined.
So what are we able to do?
That uncertainty...love it. Embrace the hell out of it. The uncertain places in your life are opportunities to have nothing short than delightful magic knock your socks off. Do you really know what is going to happen? Absolutely not. Will you try to project as much as practicable? Yes, we've all done that haven't we? But when you start coming back to the present moment, over and over again because our minds never stop getting distracted, you get to fully be here. Here really is a great spot to be. Start really seeing what is going on around you rather than spending too much time distracting yourself from everything that isn't in this moment.
So all nervousness actually is, when it comes down to it, is new things happening. Enjoy that feeling and sit with it. Actually take a little time to actually feel the anxiety in your stomach and then take a moment to start to appreciate why it's coming up. "In this moment, what is the thing that's happening at this time that is new?" When you begin to do that, well, things become lots more fun. But when you stop living in the future , the anxiety starts to leave altogether.
It is all about how we define anxiety in the first place.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is the author and creator of The Words Of Encouragement a website dedicated to bringing encouraging words to all those who are in need of some help, whether that ranges from helping people define anxiety to providing them with strong powerful quotes about life so they can continue to chase their dreams.
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