There's this really fascinating art in walking away from certain people who don't treat you well, respect you enough to respond to you, or don't act like you mean much to them. On one hand you want to be close with as many good people as you can and you reach out attempting to make new good friends. On the other hand you have got this respect for yourself and pride in how you act. The middle ground is tough to find on occasion. It is something that I grapple with continually. At what point do you hold your head up high and walk away from the relationship?
I hold myself to a pretty high standard. A large amount of the time I find myself not desiring to do something but doing it anyway because I know the other person really deserves that. I'm of the opinion that is what I'd appreciate if the situation was switched around. But I feel that most of the time people don't really do that for me. I don't know if this is just my generation, but it is increasingly popular for people to just not respond to you, not take seconds out of their day to recognise effort, and just hide. I don't know what it is. I do not understand what makes people do this. Is it a lack of respect? Do you just not like me? Do you just not care?
As I'm going through life, things have become more intense as it seems. I give my heart out to people in a way that I have never been capable of before - and I love that I have started to develop that. But simultaneously I have experienced more and more angles that are just the grandest turnoffs I've ever come by. I find that balance between giving people honest chances, and deciding to walk away. It's hard to let people go particularly when there isn't any gigantic blowup of any sort.
It seems hard to turn off trying to bring others joy. Because that really is what it really comes down to for me. I attempt to bring others as much joy as I can during the day. I attempt to make others smile. I attempt to give them a little leg up, some confidence, some spark to their day that might make it all that much better. I don't expect them to do exactly same for me...but I do look for respect, and if it is not there, I don't attempt to convince them...I just end up leaving.
Finding the balance has been incredibly hard on my heart lately. But in all seriousness, I know what I have to do. I have to walk away. I need to respect myself enough, the kind of person I am now and not settle for something less than I know what I merit. You have got to know what you are worth. If you don't think you are 100% worth it, you will never settle for just anything. Remember, people only treat you certain ways by what you accept from them.
I hold myself to a pretty high standard. A large amount of the time I find myself not desiring to do something but doing it anyway because I know the other person really deserves that. I'm of the opinion that is what I'd appreciate if the situation was switched around. But I feel that most of the time people don't really do that for me. I don't know if this is just my generation, but it is increasingly popular for people to just not respond to you, not take seconds out of their day to recognise effort, and just hide. I don't know what it is. I do not understand what makes people do this. Is it a lack of respect? Do you just not like me? Do you just not care?
As I'm going through life, things have become more intense as it seems. I give my heart out to people in a way that I have never been capable of before - and I love that I have started to develop that. But simultaneously I have experienced more and more angles that are just the grandest turnoffs I've ever come by. I find that balance between giving people honest chances, and deciding to walk away. It's hard to let people go particularly when there isn't any gigantic blowup of any sort.
It seems hard to turn off trying to bring others joy. Because that really is what it really comes down to for me. I attempt to bring others as much joy as I can during the day. I attempt to make others smile. I attempt to give them a little leg up, some confidence, some spark to their day that might make it all that much better. I don't expect them to do exactly same for me...but I do look for respect, and if it is not there, I don't attempt to convince them...I just end up leaving.
Finding the balance has been incredibly hard on my heart lately. But in all seriousness, I know what I have to do. I have to walk away. I need to respect myself enough, the kind of person I am now and not settle for something less than I know what I merit. You have got to know what you are worth. If you don't think you are 100% worth it, you will never settle for just anything. Remember, people only treat you certain ways by what you accept from them.
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Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Need some more content to move foward from your relationship? Try these life goes on quotes.
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