There are these moments during particular days where I must be astonishingly truthful with myself about what I happen to be going through and feeling. I know when it is preparing to occur because I get this wave of chills from the top of my neck down to my lower back and I feel my mood begin to change. I used to be afraid of it...the sensation of water about dripping down my back. But in time I have learned the simple way to sit with it.
What follows after is pure stillness. Deep in thought. Numb. I feel truth bubbling up to the surface.
Sometimes we are going through life not fully grasping that there are things under the surface. We believe that we have totally recovered or have moved on, but in reality there are still pieces to the puzzle that need to be put together. Maybe Maybe it is just one piece left, just maybe it's just this moment where you need to sit down completely and get quiet one last time, or maybe it demands more of your attention.
There's a fascinating balance between moving forward and making the effort, whatever the situation might be and starting to grasp what is occurring within. I suspect much of the time when a person is hurt and other people recognise it they try to tell that person to really pick themselves up as fast as possible and forget the past. This advice, while meant to be helpful, isn't really pragmatic - only because the same person who gave that advice, in the same scenario, couldn't possibly take it.
The best advice you can truly give isn't to forget as fast as you can and blast forward, but to sit with whatever is occurring within. To let it all flow through you. The only way you can actually understand what something actually means to you, especially in a relationship, is by experiencing the result.
Have a truth filled moment.
Don't run or hide from feelings that you would associate as negative. They are life's way of balancing you out. When you try and block them or manipulate them, you are putting yourself in a horrible place. Let life do what it has to do to keep you learning and growing.
When the moment is over, then go on. Don't try to change it while you are in it. Something is trying to chat with you. Open yourself to emotions and let them speak reason into your heart.
What follows after is pure stillness. Deep in thought. Numb. I feel truth bubbling up to the surface.
Sometimes we are going through life not fully grasping that there are things under the surface. We believe that we have totally recovered or have moved on, but in reality there are still pieces to the puzzle that need to be put together. Maybe Maybe it is just one piece left, just maybe it's just this moment where you need to sit down completely and get quiet one last time, or maybe it demands more of your attention.
There's a fascinating balance between moving forward and making the effort, whatever the situation might be and starting to grasp what is occurring within. I suspect much of the time when a person is hurt and other people recognise it they try to tell that person to really pick themselves up as fast as possible and forget the past. This advice, while meant to be helpful, isn't really pragmatic - only because the same person who gave that advice, in the same scenario, couldn't possibly take it.
The best advice you can truly give isn't to forget as fast as you can and blast forward, but to sit with whatever is occurring within. To let it all flow through you. The only way you can actually understand what something actually means to you, especially in a relationship, is by experiencing the result.
Have a truth filled moment.
Don't run or hide from feelings that you would associate as negative. They are life's way of balancing you out. When you try and block them or manipulate them, you are putting yourself in a horrible place. Let life do what it has to do to keep you learning and growing.
When the moment is over, then go on. Don't try to change it while you are in it. Something is trying to chat with you. Open yourself to emotions and let them speak reason into your heart.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Need some more content to move forward with your life and recover from a relationship? Try these ex boyfriend quotes out.
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