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What Happens At Marriage Counseling?

By Ruthie Calderon


If you and your spouse are going through particularly difficult times, for whatever reason, then you are not alone. Many couples are experiencing turmoil in their relationship for a number of reasons from stress to lifestyle to even changes in technology. Marriage counseling is one option you should consider before deciding to throw in the towel on what you and your partner have built.

The decision alone to seek counsel is a big one, and a very big step in the right direction for the relationship on a whole. This is indeed the last chance couples give to their relationship before giving up entirely. The third party objective and mediation offered through counseling is exactly what a couple may need to help them in difficult times, and learn how to handle certain situations together instead of being at odds.

There are some counselors who prefer to meet their clients separately before seeing them as a couple in the same room. This all depends on your individual situation. Your counselor may want to find out what personality types are being dealt with. It is also a good way to get you comfortable to talk with this person by yourself, as you may feel scared, nervous or intimidated to begin spilling all your secrets in front of your husband or wife.

Speaking individually to the counselor also helps the counselor decide which course of action to take when the couple eventually comes together. It can diffuse a tense situation and give the counselor a better idea of all sides of the story in an open, honest forum. It also helps the counselor to get to the root of any problems or issues that each party has as an individual person, perhaps issues from their past or childhood, which may be contributing to the overall issues that individual is having with their partner.

As a couple, therapy begins by describing themselves and their circumstances. A couple will explain why they are looking for help. A couple should feel hopeful that there is a way to resolve the situation, find one another again, or at the very least, understand the other person's side of the story following the first visit to therapy.

Successful counseling will entail learning and developing different skills to put to use with your partner. These skills will be necessary during times of challenge or conflict. Some such skills include the art of communicating, listening and of course compromising with your spouse.

It is imperative that you feel comfortable with your counselor. Knowing you chose the right person to help resolve your marital issues will help put your mind at ease during the process. A good counselor will make you want to open up more and you should follow your gut instinct within the first few minutes of meeting him or her.

Ormond Beach, FL, has a number of centers that couples can turn to. Granada Boulevard has several locations that come with good reviews and recommendations. Faith-based counseling is also an option for couples who want to explore this path, as religion may be a huge factor in their relationship. Examples of faith-based counsel include the Ormond Beach Counseling Center, found on E Granada Boulevard.




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